Well, as though divorce has an impact on the parents, it is known to have a bigger impact on the children, mostly the teenagers, because divorce kinda sucks for everyone, but it’s a whole different level for teenagers. Your younger siblings might not fully understand what’s going on, but as teenagers, we are old enough to see how messed up everything is, and we are more observant of what’s happening. Parents can make it seem like Mom and Dad aren’t fighting, but they don’t know the sleepless nights you overhear them arguing and lashing out at each other, but they just call it splitting up, not just them, but the whole family they created and submerged together. It makes you wonder what’s gonna happen next and if things will ever be normal again.
Mentally, it can have a significant impact on teens. You start feeling like you’re stuck in the middle, and maybe you feel like you have to choose sides. It’s stressful trying to be there for your parents when you’re dealing with your own stuff. School becomes a drag, you don’t want to hang out with your friends as much, and you just feel down all the time. It’s like your whole world is changing, and you don’t have no control over it.
To make things a little better, it’s important for parents to actually talk to you and not treat you like a child. They need to make it clear that it’s not your fault and that they’ll still be there for you, even if they’re not together. It also helps to have someone to talk to, whether it’s a friend, a counselor, or simply writing stuff down. Just getting your feelings out there can make a huge difference.
